Lessons Learned

So I obviously I can't sleep and with it having to do nothing with this blog post, I figured why not go ahead and make a post! That sentence made very little sense, but whatever...I'm running on very little sleep. I hope that this post makes some sense.
Earlier today (technically yesterday) I was talking to my friend about some lessons I had learned while dating Taylor and how they had really been beneficial to me. I feel like I need to share those lessons here, mostly because they fit right into where I want to be now with Andrew, yet I don't have the kahunas to actually tell him all about it. Enjoy the lessons :)

Honey, that's what firemen (or in my case right now, military men) do. They get out of bed in the middle of the night and go and save someone's life, at risk of their own. And their wives sit at home and worry and pray that they come back in one piece. That's just how it works and it's hard, but you can't stop him from doing what he loves.

Being able to do things for the two of you, make the decisions, make the moves and be the man of the house while he's away, makes you strong enough to be a fireman's (or a military man's) wife. Yeah, it's frustrating and it's hard and it sucks but you do it. You do it to be with him. You do it because you want to be with him. You do it because you love him. You do it because there's no one else to do it and you're a good woman who can do it. You can provide and stand on your own two feet. You might not be truly "independent" per se, but you can run the house without him having to be there. 

You support him because he's the one who needs the support because of his career choices and yeah, sometimes you'll need support too and he'll be there, but what about when he isn't? What if he's out fighting a fire? Or saving a life? Or fighting a war? You've got a support network built in - friends, family, church, neighbors, loved ones. That's what women do - they network and rely on each other for support - where men don't normally rely on those kinds of relationships. They rely on us, their wives and girlfriends.

So then what happens when you're both stressed out to the max, things are piling up and well, you're both getting cranky? It's time to use two of my favorite words "Screw That" and then just relax and enjoy the time you have with each other. You simply have to make time for each other and not be ready to claw each others eyes out at the smallest hint of a disagreement. Don't let the small details get in the way of the big picture. If you truly love each other, time, distance, and a little petty items won't matter. All that does matter is you and him and love.

Enjoy the quiet moments and if you don't have any - MAKE THEM. It doesn't matter how big or small your quiet moments are, but it is a requirement in any and every relationship. My personal favorite quite moment, sitting around a bonfire roasting marshmallows. Cheesy, yes. But it works just fine. It takes you away from life just long enough to make you realize you need to slow down and appreciate the little things (plus you get a tasty treat!).

Anyways, I doubt Taylor even knows he and his mom taught me all of those wonderful things. I wish I could tell them both how much I appreciate it.

I also wish I could tell Andrew these things that I've learned and how I've signed up for this program. I signed up on day one when I invited him out on a date and he said yes. My signature has not been revoked...yet...and I don't want it to be.